Imagine you’re in the store with your children and they are misbehaving. You threaten them by saying “if you don’t stop, then we are not going to get ice cream when we leave”. Before you leave the store, you have continued to tell them to “stop running!”, “put that down!”, “don’t hit your brother!”, “let go of your sister!”, sounding like a broken record. Then, on your way to
get ice cream, you lecture them on the proper way to behave in the store. So it should be no surprise to you when the next time you go to the store, they are running, yelling, hitting each other, running under the clothes, etc. What incentive do they have to behave? The last time they acted a fool in the store, they got ice cream. So why would you expect them to behave
In this day and age, we’re always on a diet, in a boot camp, watching our weight, etc. We
know that we are not living our best, healthy lives, but we continue to make poor food choices such as choosing not to exercise, and sit in front of the TV…all day. Then we wonder why
diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease are running rampant amongst our
family and friends. We want to do better, but don’t take the necessary steps to make a change. We continue to eat what we’ve always eaten and do what we’ve always done. So why are we in shock when the doctor tells us we have diabetes? What did you expect? It’s only so long that we can abuse our bodies and expect them to continue to work for us. Unless and until we change our view and behavior towards the importance of diet and exercise, we will continue to see the same results.
Many women are so fashion conscious. We’ve got to have the latest fashions worn by all the famous people on the reality shows. As soon as we see it on TV or in a magazine, we have to have it. Even if it means we pay our bills late consistently as we “rob Peter to pay Paul”. We’re living paycheck to paycheck and receiving visits from the Repo-man. Not because we have to, but because we feel we need these material things. What message are we sending to our children? Are we teaching them to grow up and do the same thing? It’s a never-ending cycle.
Why do we do the same things over and over again and expect a different result? Why do we not value ourselves enough to say “No…enough is enough!”? “No” to the child who wants a treat but has not shown that they deserve it. “No”, to the fried food and super-sized meals that clogs our arteries and takes us from our families far too soon. “No”, to the designer shoes and handbags that we purchase instead of paying our rent, utilities, and car notes.
Bottom line is, if you want a different outcome, you have to change the story…change the
rules. Remember…nothing changes if nothing changes.
What do you think? Let’s talk about it… -dcf