_ As 2011 comes to a close and the dawn of a new year comes upon us, many people are taking this time to reflect on their lives; the good, the bad, and the ugly. They begin to ask themselves, “What did I accomplish this year?”, “What goals did I fail to reach?”, “What am I going to change about myself next year?”, “What can I do to make my life better in the coming year?”
On Christmas Eve night, having dinner with my mom, sister and brother…everyone opening their gifts. Then on Christmas morning, having breakfast together, and the three siblings spending Christmas day with my dad and his side of the family exchanging gifts, playing games and eating lots of food. Those are the memories I have of my Christmases as a teen. I looked forward to those things each year and loved the stability of knowing that they would take place. We did not have a whole lot of money growing up, but we had a whole lot of love. Christmas traditions do not have to take a lot of time nor money.
_ Today was a long day. I went to work, took my daughter to her afterschool program, went to a meeting at church, came home and cooked dinner, folded the laundry, helped my daughter with her homework, checked my email, and returned all of the phone calls that I missed. Whew! I’m beat. By the time I sat down to relax, it was time to go to bed and repeat the cycle all over again. Do you also find yourself on this same rollercoaster ride? Do you sometimes think that the ride could be easier if there were someone else around?
As women, our desire to have love in our lives tends to be very strong. When we feel lonely, we try to find a ton of things to do to keep ourselves busy and take our minds off the loneliness that we feel. We fill up our calendars with events for the kids, birthday celebrations with friends, community service, church events, and anything else we can think of to keep ourselves busy; but at the end of the day, we are still lonely. We still long for that other person to love us, to show us some affection, and to make us feel like a woman.
Is it possible that the life that we created for ourselves has caused us to be too busy to love? Think about it. If the man of your dreams were to come into your life today, where will he “fit” in your busy schedule? After all, you have to work, you have to run the kids here and there, the house needs to be cleaned, you need to be available to family and friends, and you have to fulfill your commitment to your church and community. When could you possibly have time for “Mr. Right”?
Before we can make time for “Mr. Right”, we must first make time for ourselves. It’s time we take inventory of our lives and get rid of the things that are time wasters. It’s time to get off the rollercoaster and take a stroll on the beach. Ladies, take time to get to really know yourself, find out who you really are, and appreciate the woman that you have come to be. Once you do that, you will be ready for everything that love has to offer.
Ladies, don’t you think it’s time for you to stop trying to “fit” love into your busy schedule? How can you alter your schedule so that you can have time for the love that you deserve? Are there some things in your life that you are using to merely pass the time until “Mr. Right” comes along? When he does come, will you have time to love?
Tonya D. Zeigler