Yours Truly the Tree…
I don’t know about you but my favorite season of the year is fall. I’ve come to enjoy the cool breeze after a harsh hot summer. My husband and I shop heavier during this season in an effort to prepare ourselves for the season to come. The thing I enjoy most about the fall is watching the transition that takes place with the trees. In my opinion, the beauty that the earth reveals in this season is unbelievable. It is for this season I compel you all to take a lesson from the trees.
One of the most challenging things in my life has been my inability to recognize the seasons changing in my life. It seems that we all have trouble accepting the fact that some people have been designated to us for only a season. We have girlfriends that are not beneficial to our lives, yet we hold on to them for reasons for which we are unsure. We’ve done all we can to provide them with resources and direction, but they simply latch on as leaches and bleed us dry. We come to believe that God himself placed them in our lives for a reason but are never willing to let them go when their season in our life has gone.
I know that in today’s economy most of us are thankful to have jobs, even though we hate the jobs that we have. What if I told you, your season to leave that job or position came years ago but you ignored it. Now you feel trapped in a place that is not for you and because of your current state of being, you have no other choice but to stick it out and force yourself to be thankful. Your employer knows that your season is gone and treats you as such. They know that jobs are hard to come by and suggest that they’re doing you a favor by keeping you employed in that dead end job. No raise, no promotions, more work, just an unhappy you!
What if I told you that you married a man that was only supposed to be in your life for a season? You wanted to be married and you felt that your biological clock was ticking. It’s “now or never” and “now” has turned into a divorce a few years later. Some of you managed to hang on a few more years because of possessions or for the sake of your children, but ultimately you had to let go. Your hands and your heart worn from trying to hold on to your marriage with a firm grip, but the season proved to be stronger than your grip.
Now the lesson from the trees! During the transition in the fall season, we see a mixture of two types of trees: the Evergreen & Deciduous trees. The deciduous trees are the trees that we watch turn the beautiful shades of yellow, orange, purple and red during the fall months. At the peak of their beauty, the leaves are preparing to die. The tree knows that winter season is fast approaching and it must do everything it can to gather strength to survive the winter storms. The trees know that they can’t continue to provide the leaves with the nutrients they need because the tree needs to preserve its nutrients in order to remain strong during the winter months. Once the tree releases the leaves and they fall to the ground, they provide cover and nutrients to the roots as they decompose. If winter storms come prematurely, before the tree has had the opportunity to shed its leaves, they are weighted down and ultimately break, lose branches and, in some cases, fall and die.
Don’t ever get so caught up in the whirl wind of life that you forget to notice the seasons in your life. In other words don’t get caught in the winter storm with leaves (people and/or things) that you should have released years ago! Once you've released people and/ or things from your life you may feel naked, vulnerable and unsure of your ability to move on. These feelings are natural and are just that, "feelings". Don't allow your feelings to discourage you from going through this much needed process. Learn from your experiences and allow them - negative or positive, to promote growth in your life.
We must learn to do as the tree:
Release and allow the experience to enhance and strengthen who we are, so that we may provide the proper love and guidance to the next generation of women.
Are there friends or other people in your life whose season has come to an end but you have been afraid to let go? What is compelling you to keep them around?
Is there an area in your life where you know the season has come and gone? If so, what is keeping you from letting go and moving forward?
A Lesson From The Trees... MMB